Outsmarting and Outlasting Your Inner Bully

TLDRLearn how to deal with and overcome your inner bully by acknowledging its presence and stepping out to observe it.

Key insights

🧠The best way to deal with inner bullies is to stand firm, face them, and acknowledge their presence.

🏋️‍♀️When you observe your inner bully instead of identifying with it, its power weakens and fades away.

🌪️Rather than being caught up in the storm, step into the house and watch the storm. This perspective weakens the inner bully.

😌Acknowledging and observing your inner bully helps you gain control over your fear and become more confident.

🤝Support each other in facing and overcoming inner bullies, as vulnerability and unity make us stronger.


How do I deal with my inner bully?

The best way to deal with your inner bully is to acknowledge its presence and observe it. By stepping out and watching it without identifying with it, its power weakens and fades away.

Does acknowledging my inner bully make me weak?

No, acknowledging your inner bully actually empowers you. By acknowledging and observing it, you gain control over your fear and become more confident.

Can I run away from my inner bully?

Running away from your inner bully is not effective. Instead, face it head-on and confront its presence. This allows you to overcome it and grow stronger.

Is it normal to have an inner bully?

Yes, many people have an inner bully. It's a natural part of being human. The important thing is to learn how to deal with it and not let it control your life.

How can I support others in facing their inner bullies?

Support others by creating a safe and non-judgmental space for them to share their experiences. Offer empathy, understanding, and encouragement.

Timestamped Summary

00:05The video begins with Darren Day introducing the topic of outsmarting and outlasting your inner bully.

01:33Darren shares a story about his high school bully and reflects on the best way to deal with inner bullies.

02:19He explains that standing firm, facing your inner bully, and acknowledging its presence can weaken its power.

02:32Darren compares observing your inner bully to watching a storm from inside a house, gaining a perspective that weakens its hold.

02:35By acknowledging and observing your inner bully, you gain control and become less afraid.

02:55Darren concludes by encouraging everyone to face their inner bullies together and support one another.